Causes of Failure Schema

Causes of Failure Schema

There are many reasons that can cause failure traps in people, most of which are rooted in childhood, especially the relationship between parents and them.

Therefore, it is necessary to be familiar with these causes and immediately take action to treat the failure schema by an experienced and specialized psychologist and schema therapist.

Feeling of failure against successful parents

Irresponsibility of the individual in childhood

Failure and blame from parents

Comparison with other family members

Feeling inferior to other peers

Feeling of failure against successful parents

When people have very successful parents, they may consider themselves a failure in everything because of their success and imagine that they cannot achieve the same level of success and victory as their parents in any situation.

These people seek to achieve success according to their parents' standards and principles, and when they do not act as they should, they experience confusion and inadequacy.

For this reason, these people have a failure schema and consider themselves unworthy and a failure before they can complete any task in front of their parents.

Lack of responsibility in childhood

When people were not responsible in childhood and left their activities unfinished when any problem or difficulty arose and did not try to progress in the relevant activity, they become very severely trapped in the failure trap in adulthood and need treatment for the failure schema.

Because they abandoned their activities when faced with any failure or difficulty from a young age, even in adulthood, when they face failure and difficulties on the path, they cannot continue on the path and the feeling of failure and inadequacy prevents them from trying to continue on the path and endure the difficulties.

Failure and Blame from Parents

Sometimes parents blame their children from a young age and make every work and activity that the child shows unimportant.

In general, none of the child's activities satisfy the parents, and this also causes the child to feel incompetent and inferior from an early age and to consider themselves a failure in everything.

Unfortunately, some parents insult the child when none of their child's activities satisfy them, and when the child fails in something, they underestimate him with numerous insults.

And this, in addition to causing psychological damage to the child, can be one of the most important reasons why the child needs treatment for the failure schema in adulthood.

Comparing with other family members

Another cause of failure schema in individuals is the wrong parenting style of some parents. Unfortunately, some parents compare their children with each other and think that by comparing, they can raise their younger or older children better.

While comparison has no idea for children except to humiliate or create a feeling of inferiority, and this also causes the child to compare himself with his other siblings in everything he does and to consider himself less than them.

Therefore, over time, this feeling of inferiority causes him to constantly consider himself a failure in comparison with other family members and to need treatment for the failure schema.

Feeling inferior to other peers

Some children, for various reasons such as comparing their financial situation, lifestyle, etc. with other peers, consider themselves less than them and therefore experience feelings of inferiority, and this also causes them to consider themselves weaker and less worthy than their friends of the same age and fall into the failure trap.
Suggested Treatment Strategies for Failure Schema

It is important that if there is a failure trap, this schema should be treated by a specialist psychologist because if this mental schema is not treated and intensifies, people's lives will gradually be disrupted.

Therefore, some of the suggested treatment strategies for failure schema include:

Changing the individual's mindset towards themselves (positive mindset)

Seeking a specialist psychologist (therapist schema)

Self-knowledge and paying attention to the level of one's individual abilities and inner talents with the help of a therapist

Reconciliation with the inner child (not comparing oneself with others and believing in one's inherent abilities and talents, expressing love and affection for oneself, etc.)