What are life traps

Have you ever felt like the people you love, such as family members, friends, or spouse, are leaving you? Do you have doubts about connecting with others and think that everyone is leaving you? Do you constantly say that you can't find anyone who loves you and constantly wish that someone would love you? If your answer to these questions is yes, then you are probably involved in an abandonment schema or abandonment trap. Your worries and feelings of insecurity in relationships can push those around you away. Of course, you don't want this to happen either, and as people move away, you may become depressed and anxious.

What are life traps?

Life traps, which experts call schemas, can be considered as the DNA of a person. A life trap, or schema, is a pattern that begins in childhood and will resonate throughout their lives. Everything that has happened and will happen throughout our lives affects these schemas. Whether we are bullied, criticized, over-supported, abandoned, deprived, etc. ultimately affects our lives and our life schemas. Life traps determine how we think, feel, act, and relate to others. They trigger strong emotions such as anger, sadness, and anxiety.

So far, 18 types of schemas have been identified for people's lives. One of these traps or schemas is abandonment. If you are in a relationship, your worries and feelings of insecurity can push people away from you.  This unintentional sabotage can lead to depression, anxiety, isolation, and avoidance. But there are ways to overcome this trap or schema. In this article, we will talk specifically about the abandonment schema.